Sunday, 6 April 2008

Questions Questions and Questions

Hello Everyone,
How is everyone doing, hope you had a nice weekend? We came across this article on Oprah.com and thought to share. Some of the questions might not apply to Nigerians but we thought it was quite interesting. Let us know what you think. We have been getting lots of emails about us and our companys, so if you are new to wedding vogue or to any of our works, we have added a little intro. Have a great week!

Love,
Molara and Gbemi

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Twenty Questions to Ask Before You Get Married

You may think that you and your fiancee have talked about everything, but have you discussed the issues that will make your marriage work? Answer these questions from Susan Pivers with your partner, and work towards a shared vision of what your relationship can be.

Home

What percentage of our income are we prepared to spend to purchase and maintain our home on a monthly or annual basis?

Who is responsible for keeping our house and yard cared for and organized?

Are we different in our needs for cleanliness and organization?

Is one or both of us neat? Messy? A "pack rat?" An organizational wizard?

Money

How much money do we earn together? Now? In one year? In five years? Ten?

Who is responsible for which portion? Now? In one year? Five? Ten?

What is our ultimate financial goal regarding annual income, and when do we anticipate achieving it? By what means, and through what efforts?

What are our categories of expense (rent, clothing, insurance, travel)? How much do we spend monthly, annually, in each category? How much do we want to be able to spend? Now? In one year? Five? Ten?

Work

How much time will each of us spend at work, and during what hours? Do we begin work early? Will we prefer to work into the evening?

If one of us doesn't want to work, under what circumstances, if any, would that be okay?

How ambitious are you? Are we comfortable with the other's level of ambition?
Sex

Am I comfortable giving and receiving love, sexually? In sex, does my partner feel my love for him or her?

Are we satisfied with the frequency of our lovemaking? How do we cope when our desire levels are unmatched? A little? A lot? For a night? A week? A month? A year? More?

Health and Food

Do we eat meals together? Which ones? Who is responsible for the food shopping? Who prepares the meals? Who cleans up afterward?

Is each of us happy with the other's approach to health? Does one have habits or tendencies that concern the other (e.g., smoking, excessive dieting, poor diet)?

Family

What place does the other's family play in our family life? How often do we visit or socialize together? If we have out-of-town relatives, will we ask them to visit us for extended periods?

How often? For what length of time?

If we have children, what kind of relationship do we hope our parents will have to their grandchildren? How much time will they spend together?

Children

Will we have children? If so, when? How many? How important is having children to each of us?

How will having a child change the way we live now? Will we want or be able to take time off from work, or work a reduced schedule?

For how long? In the months or years following the birth of our child, will we need to rethink who is responsible for housekeeping?

Community and Friends

Are we satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends we currently have? Would we like to be more involved socially? Are we overwhelmed socially, and do we need to cut back on such commitments?

What are my partner's needs for cultivating or maintaining friendships outside of our relationship? Is it easy for me to support those needs, or do they bother me in any way?

Spiritual Life

Do we share a religion? Do we belong to a church, synagogue, mosque or temple? More than one? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation?

Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice? Is the practice and the time devoted to it acceptable to the other? Does each partner understand and respect the other's choices?

*This article was copied from Oprah.com

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

FIRST for the FIRST time in History!!! YAAAY m so excited on this one.. Jah bless u and u (u ladies both)
1love

pink gloves said...

lol. I think you pple really need to cut down the questions. Income going towards bills ke? In naija shebi the man wan marry wife, he better go build house or make enough to pay the rent.

Money- In Nigeria again, whose salary is being disclosed? There are women who generate monies that their husbands know nothing about.

Work- Uhm it is whatever

Health and food- the wife cooks whatever, or the husband states what he wants.

Those are the naija answers.
The American answers are totally diffent. Declaration of assets and debt are top of the list, Spirituality is the least.

Arewa said...

Well said ladies....Although i thinkn most of the answers to these questions are established at some point @ least as soon as marriage becomes a possibilty ... x x x

OluwaDee said...

Questions 2 ask...
Dont ask everything in 1 day. ol.

How r u girls doing?

Sha said...

LOL
Interesting q's.. long time nor see.. hope yall are doing good. Have a blessed week.
Mwah

Anonymous said...

we dont want the serious stuff"!!! esp if we dont like uncle phil or aunty oprah-
i dontreally come here to hear you guys try to counsel or what not. please keep it lite!!!!!

ANON who was first ;D said...

Well then take the wheat and Leave the chaff nah Anon 09:33.... sheesh

Anonymous said...

UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NigerianDramaQueen said...

I had to take a class my freshmen year in college called "Dating, Marriage and the Family". We were told to ask these same questions, almost word for word. I never thought about some of those questions though. Good stuff.

Ricky said...

Oya!! Update please!!

Anonymous said...

i take it you guys are having writer's block abi? not good for the image or business!!
hope u get it together and come up with a refreshing chunk of posts soon...
maybe u can plan ahead so you dont dry out??
goodluck

Anonymous said...

You guys are starving me big time, how are you going to feed me all these juicy details then you just go MIA for 2 weeks +. So not fair. I agree with the previous comment. I think you guys should write a whole bunch maybe 4 months worth at a time and then update once a week.

wienna said...

Pls update o, madams.

Anonymous said...

SIIIIIRRRRRISLY you ladies have to update nah... before allowing us to come here from FB :D
ah ahn!